Stop Trying to Stand Out and Start Dressing Better

Harry & Lloyd
Now These Guys Stand Out!

Do you try to stand out with your clothes?

Have you ever considered this may be the wrong approach?

Lots of guys think dressing well means standing out, but what if I told you standing out shouldn’t be your purpose?

Just take a look at Harry and Lloyd, pictured right.

Do these guys stand out?

Sure.

In a good way?

Weeeeell… I’ll just let you answer that one.

Now, I know you probably don’t dress as extreme as Lloyd and Harry in that picture, but that doesn’t mean what I’m about to tell you doesn’t apply to you.

When you choose to work on your style, it often means that you no longer want to blend in. You want your clothes to say something. You want to look like a more refined snowflake than all the other snowflakes around you. You want to make an impression.

You can achieve all of it, but you won’t if your main goal is to stand out.

Here’s why…

Why You Shouldn’t Aim to Stand Out

We would all like to be that guy that’s known for the way he dresses. But is that still what you want, if the way you’re known to dress is all shades of wrong?

When your goal is to stand out with your clothes, your focus will be on buying clothes that stand out. Instead of a great wardrobe foundation, you’ll end up with a closet full of statement pieces.

You’ll see articles saying “This will set you apart from all the other guys!” or “Wear this and stand out from the crowd!”, and you’ll get it all.

You will end up wearing too many statement pieces at the same time, which won’t only make you look like a fool, but you will also look like you’re trying way too hard.

A man shouldn’t look like he’s trying too hard with his clothes. The most stylish men look like they grabbed something out of the closet without a lot of thought. (Though this doesn’t necessarily mean they didn’t put thought into it.)

Remember, Rule #6 states to keep it simple. There’s no need for extravagance. The best style for a man is a subtle one.

Trying to stand out too much will only have an adverse effect on how others perceive you. Y0u should aim for something else instead…

What You Should Be Aiming For

When dressing yourself, your only aim should be to look awesome.

This means that your clothes need to flatter you. They need to complement your frame and skin-tone. They need to suit your personality and lifestyle. They need to make you look like the best dressed version of yourself.

When you change your mindset from “I have to stand out” to “I have to look great”, you’ll be less inclined to wear too many flashy items at the same time, and more inclined to actually create an outfit that rocks.

And the best part is that when you look great in your clothes, it will make you stand out anyway. It’s a natural consequence. You won’t even need to try.

So in the end, I guess those guys I mentioned earlier have it right after all. Dressing well does mean standing out… Just not in the way they think.

Are you guilty of trying too stand out to much with your clothes? Do you often wear too many statement pieces at the same time? Let us know it in the comments!

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  • Cody says:

    Good stuff, Robert. Excited to see what you do with this blog. I think one website dedicated to the complete newbie (which is exactly where I was at 6 months ago) into a well dressed man is a great idea.

  • Cody says:

    I’ve been following your website, and am excited to see what you have planned for it. However, some constructive criticism.

    1. This piece comes off to me as a fluff article. A piece you wrote because you needed to update the site. You told us not to dress to stand out, but gave us real no information on how to dress great. There is no real useful information to make us better dressers in this post.

    2. I think it would be great if you released one long article, once a week. But really tackle the concept in depth. ViperChill.com, an internet marketing blog, did this when it was more active. He would write a 1,000-3,000 article and REALLY tackle a topic. You could do an in depth article with photos on how your belt, shoes and watch band should match/not match. Or an article like “The definitive guide to getting your first tailored shirt.” and go into depth on everything about it such as measurements, types of fit, types of fabric, collars, etc. Make it so these article are so useful and in depth, someone can read the article, and know everything they need to fix that part of their style.

    Good luck with the new site, I will be following it for sure.

    • Robert says:

      Hey Cody,

      thanks for your feedback. I value your honesty.

      I definitely see your point. I agree there aren’t any actionable steps for you to take in this post, and I try to add something useful to each post that someone can apply to their own style, but sometimes a shift in mindset can be just as important as any action. It can set someone on the right path.

      I understand how you could see it as fluff, but that wasn’t my intention.

      That said, I’m actually going a bit deeper into this subject in next week’s article, which will be more practical. Your comment has made me think it might have been better to combine the two into one big post instead.

      Just know that your feedback has been noted, and I’ll try my best to put at least one bit of practical advice into my future posts.

      Thank you for following.

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